FIND YOUR TRIBE AND LOVE THEM HARD

Our tribes help to make us who we are. They surround us with love and light and support when we need it most. 

Regardless of what part of your journey you’re on, you need people around you. Last summer I wrote about the importance of someone to lean on. I talked about needing someone to help you get rid of what you don’t need. Whether it was your partner, your husband, your wife, your best friend or a practitioner you see. 

To me, our tribes are what surround us with the love we need. The love we sometimes can’t find within ourselves. In those first few days with Aggie I felt as though I was a shell of myself. I could barely pick myself up. My mum, my sister, my brother, my dad and my husband were the ones who helped me get back on my feet. Of course there were words of love and encouragement from my closest friends and extended family – but in those moments, when you really can’t pick yourself up – you need help, you need guidance. You need to be taken care of. You need your people cooking for you, helping you heal, and just plain nurturing you. 

When we get that support, all of a sudden we realize that we can overcome whatever is laid in front of us. And if on that day we just can’t – that’s okay too. That’s another reason why they are there. To share in that wild down-ness. To remind you that sometimes things are just really really hard. 

I find in those moments there are a lot of people who will tell you things like “you’re doing a great job” or “it’ll get easier soon”. I don’t know about you but for me, that doesn’t really help. It’s not that we don’t innately know that things are going to get better. Of course we do. But within that one experience, that one second, we need someone to live in the moment with us -to agree with us that right now is actually just really crummy. 

If you haven’t already, I say find your tribe.

Recognize your tribe.

CELEBRATE YOUR TRIBE.

They are yours through thick and thin and if they’re anything like I think they are – they aren’t going anywhere. They’re yours to relish in, they are yours to welcome goodness with, they are yours to hold tight when things really aren’t going well. But most of all they are yours to lean on and that’s all you need sometimes. 

“When someone who loves you hugs you? Hug them back with two arms. When you hug with two arms it allows you to lean on somebody, and we always need somebody to lean on” [S.B]