When I first met this guy the ring tone on his Razor flip phone was ‘Africa’ by Toto.

The first time I slept over I woke up to his ‘Oldies but Goodies’ playlist. Track one? ‘Got to give it’ up by Marvin Gaye.

When I was searching out some inspiration for my month of love I came across this video. To say it made me smile would be an understatement. Apparently they decided to film it on their last solo trip before having a baby. Kind of perfect right?

It’s so easy to get caught up in the stress. In the confusion and the sleepless nights. In the piles of dishes and laundry that fill the house. In the in the moment conversations. What does life look like when you’re not constantly stressing out about where you have been and where you’re g o i n g.

There’s something to say for finding your fun again – whatever that looks like. Don’t forget where things began. Before thinking about a baby. Before trying to get pregnant. When it was just the two of you.

As an ode to the month of love here are 5 simple ways to find that fun again.

1. Probably my all time favourite – put on a great song while you’re cooking/doing the dishes/folding laundry, grab your partner and dance. Slow dance, the shuffle, a fake tango – whatever your style is, grab them and lead on.

2. Go out and buy an old school game. Think Clue, Battleship or Connect 4. Have it ready to go when your partner gets home or after you put the baby to bed and have some good old fashioned competition fun.

3. Pick somewhere that’s close by and go on a spontaneous road trip. If you’re like us and are in a bit of nap jail – do it as soon as baby wakes up from nap 1. Just because you have limited time doesn’t mean you can be spontaneous! It’s insanely silly but Would you rather is still one of my favorite car games. Would you rather constantly breathe fire every time you stopped talking or constantly have hair growing out of your ears?

4. Old pictures, old cards, old emails. Dig them up and have a glass of wine or a beer and go through some of your history. It’s amazing what we do and don’t remember after a long period of time. I find I kind of fall head over heels all over again.

5. Embrace each others interests. Indulge one another and even if you’re not thrilled about it. First off when someone has an interest/hobby of their own it’s just plain sexy. Even if you hate football/soccer/tennis. Even if you are a terrible cook/bike rider/runner.  Even if you don’t like cutting wood and building things – t r y it. Ask them to show you or teach you a little about it and embrace it. I’m pretty sure you’ll end up laughing and having fun regardless of how it goes.